My first memory of Kristen is from skiing a newly formed glade run at Sunday River Ski Resort in Maine. I was super excited to have Kristen with me for the adventure, but slightly nervous she may give me the “why the H did you drag me down this?!” expression mid-way though the run. When I looked to my right and saw Kristen on her snowboard with gleeful smile spread across her face, I knew that she would always be up for an adventure, continue to inspire me, and push me to be my best. Fast forward 7 years and it should be no surprise that Kristen was the first to reach out and share her excitement for this new blogging adventure. Below is my interview with Kristen sharing her goals. Happy Reading!Kristen, you seemed to have an ah-ha moment after reading Five Steps to a More Successful Year [Link Here] , can you share a little more about that? Yes…I think the reality of what sunk in for me was the switch from having resolutions focus on things to stop doing and shifting to things I want more of in my life. My new mantra is to focus on getting more good into my life and stop worry about getting the bad out.What resolutions have you set for yourself? My resolution list is currently more than 5, so I’m still working on pairing them down (seriously, you’ve inspired me!). I read your blog post while in with NH with my extended family and immediately started doing a brain dump of all the things I want to do in 2018, while pushing them to brainstorm for themselves. The best part is the full support I have from Kevin [my husband] and family! There isn’t anything better than having a list of things that make me happy, combined with the encouragement and support of my closest loved ones!1. At work, either get a promotion in the next 2 months and/or pull back on the amount of time I am dedicating to getting to that next level. I have to reset my boundaries on how long certain sacrifices of time are sustainable at my current level. As working parents our daughter, Ava, is making it very clear that she needs her parents to be present during the time we have together and not trying to multitask (yes, this includes answering “just one more” email when we think she isn’t paying attention).2. Our office has shortened hours on Fridays, so I’m committing to leave @1:30 to spend the afternoon/evening doing something fun together as a family. We’re going to put a bunch of ideas in a jar and then pick one together each Friday so our family time is not sucked up by chores and errands.3. Stay up to date on technology, updating my iPhone software as soon as a new update is available (22 versions, that’s how far behind I was recently, oops!). I also I want to embrace the latest tech trends rather than lag behind and become intimidated by them.
4. Organize my digital photos, keep consistent, back photos up, 4x photobooks a year (1 down!)5. More girl time, make it a point to see my friends more often. 4x throughout the year have quality time with my girlfriends, a weekend trip would be nice but I would settle for a day of shopping and lunch.
So now that you were recently promoted (CONGRATS!!) how do you handle your first goal? Thank you! At the end of the day it will be a combo of dialing it back and getting after this new promotion. I need to be clear with my team on realistic expectations and ask them to support me in ensuring we as a team have the right balance and support for each other. I also want them to feel empowered to push back on me if expectations begin to impact their personal happiness. I’m now in the position to influence and help my team get the balance that is right for them (everyone is different). My job is to make sure that I get those on my team to where they want to be in their career, whether it’s work life balance, career advancement, job sculpting, expanded experience, etc. In short, I have to lead by example.What tips/advice do you have for other working moms? I would encourage everyone to make themselves a priority, let others know what you want, ask for their support and set your own boundaries. When I went back to work after maternity leave I adjusted my schedule to not be in the office most Fridays. At the time, getting the guts to ask my boss to adjust my schedule was way scarier than being responsible for another human (which was also scary), but it is one of the moments in my life I’m most proud of. I asked for what I wanted, put myself first and realized I had nothing to lose, but everything to gain. The best tip I have, which stems from that priceless year of Fridays with Ava, is to block EVERY Friday, ALL DAY as a recurring meeting. I never took my calendar block off when I returned to working Fridays and I’ve found that it forces people to reach out directly if there is something important they need me to attend on a Friday. Now my Fridays are less stressful, and much more productive.
Kristen, thank you so much, I am truly inspired by your goals and know others will be too, do you have any last thoughts? My only parting words would be, in a world that is filled with so much divide, negativity and stress, my overarching theme (inspired by you) is to focus on feeling positive and doing things that make me happy in the short term. I am focusing my time, energy and efforts on things that will bring happiness to my life, not putting my efforts towards things that I can only hope will bring happiness at an unknown point in the future.
Kristen is now the Sr. Manager of Customer and Promotional Analytics at Dunkin’ Brands, Inc.
If you already set goals for yourself please share them in the comments to inspire others to take the leap. Thank you for reading!
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